|I love this picture because it shows that even though I was about to enter a dark time I was at first, very excited and very full of love for my Love Bugs.|
Mostly my feelings related to wanting to run away and imagine "what if" things had been different. I could rationalize away my desire to run away with the thought that if I were gone, Hubs would find a better wife. Sounds crazy, doesn't it? And yet, I fantasized those thoughts all the time.
One of the hardest things about motherhood was the realization that I was totally responsible for two very little lives. I wasn't able to separate the decisions of feeding and napping and swaddling or not from the decisions to homeschool, potty train, spank, let them drive a car, have cell phones, etc. All the decisions I would be making came swooping in on me all at once and I was very overwhelmed (and very tired).
Two little lives and little faces stared at me. Sometimes they were silently wondering up at me and sometimes they were screaming or squirming. I didn't know what they wanted and I didn't know how to give them whatever that was that they wanted. I felt so much love for them and yet so much fear for screwing them up. One of my closest friends and fellow twins mama JK told me, "You can not screw them up." and I literally thought of cross-stitching that on a pillow somewhere where I could see it every day. If I hadn't been sleep deprived and living in a constant fog of "what the heck is happening" I may have actually done it.
With time and sleep has come the ability to realize that I need to face only the day that is before me and not to worry about what may or may not come. The decision to potty train (and how), to homeschool (or not), to spank, drive, cell phones, dating (oh Lord, be near), etc. etc. etc. ALL those decisions will come later in life and I will receive the grace when time is needed.
One of my friends once said that God doesn't give us grace for imagined fears.... and what she meant by that was, God isn't going to give me the grace to face the fears of having teenage twin daughters NOW because that is not what God is asking me to walk through TODAY. He is giving me grace for today.
And boy, did I need it today. The Love Bugs were in a mood this morning. The only way to describe the mood is to italicize it. It was a mood. I guess bold doesn't hurt either!! And the feelings of running away came creeping up on me. Being a mother has been one of the hardest journeys God has asked me to walk and yet, one of the greatest. Don't get me wrong, I love my Love Bugs and I wouldn't trade all the lessons I am learning but they are difficult.
So when I am overwhelmed with responsibility I am reminded that all things are ultimately in God's hand and He was faithful to see me through the first year of the Love Bugs' life so I know He can see me through anything.
I wanted to write this to encourage you that God will see you through whatever it is you are facing. Even when we don't feel like we are able to be faithful to God... when the road is dark and the way seems impossible. 2 Timothy 2:13 says, if we are faithless, he remains faithful, for he cannot deny himself. It's God's very character to be faithful. Trust and rely on Him. He will not let you down or disappoint you.
There are days when I want to give in to the thoughts and just give up because it seems easier. But then I do the things that "recharge my batteries" and I am able to face the moment. If only that moment. I'd like to keep talking about this because it's one of the reasons I haven't blogged recently. I have these little voices that tell me you all don't want to hear about this season of my life... and you know what, it's okay if you don't but it's also good for those who have been there and may be there someday. Life is good but life can be hard and when it gets tough its good to know you are not alone. Not only does God give us His people who have gone through similar circumstances but He has also given us His Spirit who comforts us in our times.